I've included a small excerpt of what I received, but I read and read and re-read that text for what seemed like forever. I then decided to take this one step further. The words took such a firm grasp on my thoughts I decided to share them to hear the thoughts and opinions of others. After many immediate "wows" and "thats true" responses, the conversations grew into a deeper place that most people don't like to think about let alone go back to. Though the text was perceived from many differing perspectives, the general consensus was in agreement with the overall message that author of these words was trying to get across. We all have that ONE person who defines what love is for us whether we want to admit it or not. This one person subconsciously controls how we communicate and deal with people we choose to interact with on a romantic level. Undoubtedly each person I sent this text to was able to immediately select who that person was for them, and reflect on the progress or damage that particular person may have caused.
The main goal wasn't to rehash old feelings or bring up long forgotten and buried memories, it was and opportunity to realize that the one person that has set the template for how we view and approach love is only the gun shot at the beginning of your race. They are not your finish line. The ideals, and standards you possess are tied to them in some way but that doesn't define where or who you will end up with. My most interesting conversation and perceptive view on the matter came from a close friend who initially struggled with the concept of what this message was relaying to its audience. The person who defines love for her is not the person she is with. These two men can actually be defined as the exact opposite of one another, however the person she is currently with is the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with. How could this be?! This brought an in-depth conversation surrounding the concept of using your template to steer you in the opposite direction of how that love was defined and portrayed. Using this person doesn't necessarily have to constrict you to finding, shaping, or molding a love like the one you initially had. It could be just the opposite. Their love can help steer you in a new direction that is predominately productive for the life you are trying to live and the love you know you deserve. There is a great difference between thinking and knowing and that template should be used to help you "know" for certain who or what it is that you want.